Redefining what makes a man

Beyond masculinity

For generations, a man's detachment from household chores was seen as a hallmark of masculinity. Zhu admitted that, growing up, he was taught a "real man" should never touch dishwater or a broom.

But after joining Baohu Doudou, his views have changed, and his mindset has broadened.

"I've come to realize that it's not inherent for women to be one way and men to be another. Everyone needs to understand and support each other," he said.

Now, Zhu embraces the role of a caring father. To him, soothing a baby to sleep or changing diapers doesn't diminish his masculinity.

When he brought his two-year-old daughter to a five-day company retreat and cared for her attentively throughout, he earned unanimous respect from his colleagues.

Hu also strongly opposes the "macho mentality" and so-called "tough guy education". He recalled being told as a boy that he must not cry — and if he did, his family would angrily order him to stop within three seconds.

The experience only added to his stress and left him struggling to show empathy in intimate relationships. When his partner cried, for example, instead of offering comfort, he felt confused and even irritated.

"Many men's ability to express emotions is cut off by traditional gender education, and their inability to release negative feelings ultimately harms both themselves and those around them," Hu said.

He now believes true education should encourage boys to accept themselves and respect others, helping them grow into emotionally complete and independent thinkers.