Sports dreams carry a price

Escalating costs driving some parents to ruin The Olympics sparks hope in many a child of going for the gold. But in financially supporting those dreams, some parents are going for broke.

For his 15-year old son's traveling hockey team, Tim Richmeier was spending about $5,000 a season by using his tax refunds, halting contributions to his retirement fund and putting travel expenses on a credit card.

Richmeier said it was a great experience for his child, but after four years it was a financial relief when his son was cut from the squad.

"I was kind of dreading the upcoming season, knowing I'd go deeper in the hole," said Richmeier, a single father in Phoenix.

Competitive youth sports in the US are rising in popularity. The exclusive club and travel teams come with added coaching and intense competition, as well as much higher costs than a school or community team.

A survey released on Monday by TD Ameritrade of 1,000 parents whose children are involved in such elite endeavors finds most pay between $100 and $500 a month. For one in five, it's more than $1,000.

Some parents can absorb the cost, but others are working second jobs, depleting their savings or otherwise compromising their own financial well-being to fund the activities.

In the survey, 60 percent say the expense has them concerned about their ability to save for the future.

Parents largely say they don't regret the spending because of the physical, mental and emotional benefits for their children. But financial and athletic experts suggest parents make a more objective assessment of at what cost the kids are pursuing these dreams.

Of nearly 8 million US students currently participating in high school athletics, only 480,000 compete at the college level at an NCAA school, according to the organization. Few from that group will move on to compete at the Olympic or professional level.

And parents hoping for a scholarship to offset their sacrifices may be disappointed. NCAA schools awarded more than $2.9 billion in athletics scholarships last year. But a full ride is rare, and a partial scholarship may come to a fraction of what it cost to get a child to that level.

"Those numbers don't discourage many people; it's in the American character to go after it," said Tom Farrey, who leads the Sports & Society Program at the Aspen Institute.

"Parents are coming from a place of love, they want what is best for their kids. Unfortunately, they are misinformed."

Even for those who can afford it, there is stress.

Lisa Williams of Wilmette, Illinois, sees the $2,000 or so she spends each season on her daughter's soccer team not as an investment in a sports future but in her child's skill set off the field.

In her neighborhood there is a "certain expectation of excellence" and the assumption if your child plays sports that they'll do so on a travel or elite team.

"Some of it is parent peer pressure. Do you want to be the parent who doesn't send their kid to the extra training and the summer camps and the extra clinics?" Williams said. "You don't want people to think, 'Oh, she doesn't love her kid.'"

That pressure is part of a shift in parenting and culture over recent decades, experts say.

"We tend to get very emotionally invested in the life of our kids in sports, it makes us more vulnerable to making questionable decisions," said Mark Hyman, who teaches in the business of sports program at George Washington University.

He notes that many people have an economic interest in parents spending more on sports - from elite coaches to the facilities that host the tournaments. So parents may be urged to make decisions that are not based on neutral input.

"The challenge is to recognize sports for kids are great but they are great because they give you these positive lessons they can carry on through life," Hyman said.

Debbie Amorelli of Upton, Massachusetts, says she wrestles with how much she and her husband spend on hockey for her 17-year old son, who hopes to play at college.

The fees, gear and travel add up to about $10,000 a year. They pay for it using an inheritance from her father, but without it Amorelli says she doesn't know what they would have done.

"The experiences he is having are priceless," she said.

"But we keep saying to him: This is essentially coming out of your college fund, this is money we could be putting away."