《人生七年》的5條人生法則

英國(guó)導(dǎo)演邁克爾·艾普特拍了一部很牛的BBC紀(jì)錄片《人生七年》(《56UP》)，導(dǎo)演選擇了14個(gè)不同階層的孩子進(jìn)行跟蹤拍攝，每七年記錄一次、從7歲一直到56歲。很多文章解讀說這就像之前天涯很火的那篇《寒門難再出貴子》，暴露了人生的殘酷。

然而，一千個(gè)人眼中有一千個(gè)哈姆雷特。在這里換個(gè)角度另類解讀這部每7年就火一次的紀(jì)錄片——《人生七年》告訴我們的5條人生法則。

1. Life goes on.
無論發(fā)生什么，生活都會(huì)繼續(xù)。

Through the years, we've seen the participants experience deaths, divorce, and dramatic career setbacks. We've also seen them prevail against adversity.
在紀(jì)錄片中，我們可以看到參與拍攝的人們經(jīng)歷死亡、離婚、突發(fā)的職場(chǎng)挫折等等，也見證了他們走出逆境。

Over and over, we've seen the participants believe negative events meant their lives were finished. But people will gradually return to their personal “baseline” of happiness after a triumph or a tragedy.
多少次，這些人認(rèn)為他們?nèi)松械拇煺鬯坪跻馕吨约旱纳钔甑傲耍欢]有。人們?cè)趹?zhàn)勝困難或經(jīng)受磨難后，會(huì)逐漸回歸到最基本平常的幸福。

The key to happiness is to raise that baseline by cultivating an approach to life that emphasizes appreciation for the good things, as well as qualities like forgiveness and compassion.
幸福的秘訣就是培養(yǎng)這樣的人生態(tài)度：欣賞生命中美好的事情、培養(yǎng)寬容和富有同情心的素質(zhì)。

2. Count your blessings.
要記得時(shí)常感恩。

The most troubled—and compelling—participants in the series are the ones that are also among the most grateful for what they have.
紀(jì)錄片中遇到麻煩最多、同時(shí)也最引人注目的角色，往往也是那些對(duì)自己所擁有的一切最懂得感恩的人。

Neil, for example, suffers severe mental illness and has been homeless and suicidal for long stretches of time. But Neil also provides the audience with many moments of grace, as when he recounts how grateful he is for long walks and conversations with friends.
比如說，影片中的尼爾患有嚴(yán)重的精神疾病，很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間都流浪在外、猶豫在自殺的邊緣。但尼爾帶給觀眾的，還有很多優(yōu)雅的鏡頭：回想起和朋友們的長(zhǎng)途漫步、促膝而談，他感到很滿足。

This sense of gratitude contributes powerfully to the resilience self-cure of Neil. People who live a life of pervasive thankfulness really do experience life differently than people who cheat themselves out of life by not feeling grateful.
正是這種感恩的意識(shí)，促進(jìn)了尼爾的恢復(fù)和自愈。對(duì)生活毫無感恩的人其實(shí)是欺騙了自己的生活，而對(duì)生活充滿感恩的人、他們的生活體驗(yàn)真的與眾不同。