Tiger Moms not always the best parents

Her own parenting approach today is a rebellion against what she sees as a cold pragmatism that robs children of their voices, an argument echoed recently in a study by University of Texas-Austin psychology professor Su-yeong Kim.

Kim's study demonstrated that children raised in Tiger Mother-style households have higher rates of depression - and lower grades.

Naturally, the report set off another wave of media coverage linked to Chua's book.

"People keep trying to pit me against Kim Wong Keltner, or to ask me to comment on that parenting study, and I keep telling them 'Look, all I did was write my personal family story,'" Chua says.

What much of the media coverage has failed to mention: The bottom line of Chua's book was that parenting is never one-size-fits-all. What worked with her first daughter was a resolute failure with her second, who ultimately succeeded not because of Chua's "Tiger Mother" parenting, but in spite of it.

While the marketing for Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother seemed to target Western audiences, Tiger Babies Strike Back will likely resonate most with Asian-American readers.

Keltner's warm, frank voice intercuts humor with emotional weight, and the lives she describes will surely ring true to the children of immigrant parents.

Chinese-American women of earlier eras were often poor, and more likely to have been focused on making ends meet than fretting over identity, she argues. It's within that context that these women, now in their later years, have applied their own experiences to motherhood.

Keltner notes that Asian-American women have the highest rate of suicide among senior citizens of any ethnicity.

Pressure to fit stereotypical ideas of success, intelligence and beauty can be incredibly harmful for people who don't naturally fit those standards, she says. A reticence about discussing flaws or problems also holds many Asian-Americans back for fear of shaming their families.

"So many Asians have this sense that they have something to say, but they're waiting for some kind of permission that's never going to come," she says.

"You're taught to not make a spectacle of yourself, and I guess I have just the right combination of bravery and stupidity to say 'Hey, how come no one is pointing out that the Tiger Mother idea is perpetuating a harmful stereotype and potentially hurting kids?' I wanted to mix it up, because there is an alternative."