Resisting parents' pressure to wed requires patience and strategy

The World Is So Big, I Want to Stay Single－Tips to Resist the Pressure to Marry, written by Luo Aiping. [Photo provided to China Daily]

"In Chinese culture, acquaintances ask about your (potential) marriage to show concern, like a greeting. Parents and relatives do so because they care about you," Luo says.

"But the stress is huge－everyone asks you the same question again and again. You have to manage your emotions."

The older generation views marriage as a necessary life step. They want their children to have life partners so they won't be lonely, Luo says.

Many believe it's their duty to watch over their grandkids. They often worry they won't be healthy enough if they grow too old.

"You can't avoid the issue, or they'll take it as a reason to continue pushing you," she believes. "You must explain why you're single and your views on marriage."

That's even so if parents use harsh or humiliating language.

"You have to explain your feelings and tell them to stop. If they try to force you into a relationship, you have to say no."

Financial independence should come first and foremost, Luo says.