Is it easy to get along with your Chinese in-laws?

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My wife just had a baby and it is some kind of Chinese thing for her parents to help raise the kids, etc., during this time. Well they are here for 6 months and I'm only 2 months into it and they are driving me crazy!!! I just hide out in the room hoping none of them want anything. I love to go to work now! It's the highlight of my day and I dread the weekend. They don't speak any English and though I try to speak Chinese to them, they just don't get a lot of what I am saying. The main problem is that, like your own parents, they are so stubborn and set in their ways, it's irritating. I consider myself a flexible person and know they are making a sacrifice to be here and help out, but at the same time we were fine without them and just want them to have some fun with their grandson. Well before they got here I installed a new AC for the whole house because here in Florida it gets hot. I bought a bed and replaced and upgraded rooms so they could be comfortable. Almost the first or second day here they told me and my wife they hate AC -..they enjoy the 100 degree temperature. Then the bed we bought for them was too soft. See over there they sleep on basically wood with a cover as the mattress. Well we bought a bed like that with the wood slats but its still different from what you get over there, so we bought like an inch thick foam for them to sleep on…they whined it was too soft. Okay, so then her mom says she can't sleep at night because her husband is snoring. I asked my wife why that didn't bother her when they were in China and my wife told me that they slept in separate rooms over there. So we bought a single bed and threw it in the babies' bedroom so the mom can sleep away from her husband. I've told them that one side of the sink doesn't work and not to use it but they keep using it all the time. The dad just goes around digging up the yard, he tore out all my nice flowers because he thought they were weeds….my wife is fully on their side. My main complaint is that they do whatever they want when they are here even when I tell them not to. Yet when I spent a month over there I had to play by their rules and would repeatedly get told not to do certain things and was subjected to sleeping on their uncomfortable wood bed. I don't ask for much, I'm happy to see my wife and son get to spend time with them but it seems like they should show some kind of respect for the things I feel should or shouldn't be done. I can't wait till November……

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